Tips for a Happier Holiday After a Divorce


Divorce is difficult for everyone involved. It is especially hard during the holiday season. However, you need not be overwhelmed by the emotions of a post-divorce Christmas. Nor should you try to sit the holiday out in an attempt to ignore or suppress your feelings. This is the worst thing that you can do as it may lead to an emotional explosion that you will later come to regret.

You should instead take charge of yourself, your emotions, and your situation. Here are a few tips that can help:

1. Be realistic about you can and cannot do

The divorce may have changed your financial situation and the relationships you had when you were married. You may not be able to spend as freely as before. The friends that you and your ex had in common may not be comfortable seeing you over the holidays, so you should be prepared for that.

2. Get in touch with your friends and family

If you are someone who loves Christmas, spending it without the person you thought you knew and loved can be especially hard. You have gotten used to having your family all together and delighting in the spirit of the season. This setting is no longer possible. You must therefore create a new setting in which you can be just as festive. You should arrange to meet with lifelong family. You should also make plans now to spend the holidays with members of your family.

3. Don’t be alone

Whatever you do, avoid spending the holidays alone. This will only leave you with your own thoughts, which will depress you even more.

Dealing with Legal Issues

If you have children with your ex, legal issues can flare up over the holidays. You should not hesitate to call your Scottsdale divorce lawyer to resolve child custody and visitation issues. If there is unclarity about who will get the kids on which days, you should involve your divorce attorney in Arizona well before Christmas and New Year’s. A divorce lawyer in Arizona from the Fruchtman Law Firm can help.