Holiday Co-parenting Tips

Nov 30

Co-parenting / Mother and daughterThe holiday season can be a stressful and difficult time for parents and children after divorce, especially during the first year. It can be a hard adjustment to transition to a co-parenting relationship, especially when the holidays become a source of contention. No matter how old your children are, they deserve to be the priority. Here are some tips for drama-free holiday co-parenting from a Scottsdale family law attorney that ensures both families get to spend time with the kids.

Be flexible
While this can be difficult — especially if you have something really special planned — co-parenting requires compromise and flexibility. If your child’s other parent has family visiting from out of town during your scheduled parenting time, try to be open to trading days. This is in the best interest of the children to ensure they get time with both sides of their family. You would also want your ex to do the same for you. Be sure you arrange for specific make-up days at the time of the agreement.

Don’t overcompensate
Don’t feel pressured to buy your kids’ love or win their affection. Coordinate gifts with your ex to make sure the kids receive a normal amount of presents without duplicates. Don’t use oneupmanship and extravagant gifts to try to make your ex look worse in the eyes of your children. Your children want time with you. Start new holiday traditions, spend within your means, and create memories that they will remember forever, unlike the latest high-price gadget.

Don’t ask kids to decide where they will spend the holidays
Children go through the strongest grieving process after divorce and it’s simply not fair to ask your children to decide with whom they want to spend the holidays. Before talking to your kids about possible holiday plans, start by consulting your visitation schedule or parenting plan. Discuss plans with your ex and make decisions together as much as possible. When you have the kids during a holiday, give them time to speak with their other parent that day.

At the Law Office of Hope E. Fruchtman, we understand just how difficult the holidays can be after divorce. Still, there will always be opportunities to make new traditions and memories with your children and move on together while working with your ex to support the kids. All divorces come with an adjustment period, but remember that you can work with a Scottsdale family law attorney if your ex refuses to follow the visitation agreement in your case.

Thinking about divorce? What you should know before making a decision

Nov 09

thinking about divorce

The Law Office of Hope E. Fruchtman is devoted to helping people who have come to a place of crisis in their lives. This Scottsdale Divorce Attorney practices family law including child custody, child support, prenuptial agreements, post-divorce enforcement, adoption, paternity, juvenile law and other family law issues. As a Scottsdale AZ family lawyer, this team has intense experience in assisting with divorce.

Divorce never begins with the divorce lawyer, but rather, that is the final action for a relationship. Over the years, the Law Office of Hope E. Fruchtman has found five main things that will help both parties immeasurably if they are used before the signing of the divorce.

1) Finding a support network is one of the most important assets for those thinking about divorce.
2) Depending on what your lawyer suggests, consider separating bank accounts and credit cards so that neither spouse can bankrupt the other.
3) Prepare a balance sheet for all of the finances. List properties, retirement accounts, bank accounts, mortgages, autos and credit cards including all debt and assets. This will make the split easier when you can anticipate what will be divided.
4) Set a budget on the amount you want to spend your divorce attorneys.
5) If you have children, their safety and mental health is the priority. Compare your work schedules, and try to determine the best times for the children in the event of shared custody.

Divorce is one of the most difficult things a couple can go through. This Scottsdale AZ family lawyer desires to provide the highest quality and compassionate legal representation for their clients as possible.

This experienced team is committed to excellence, and their clients rely on their specialized knowledge concerning the law and litigation skills. This law firm has been through years of dedicated service. They know what they are doing and how to help. If you are thinking about divorce contact a Scottsdale divorce attorney today.

 

Recognizing the warning signs of domestic violence

Nov 09

warning signs of domestic violence

Generally speaking, most people find that domestic violence a topic they simply do not like to talk about. Often, shame is attached to domestic violence. The abused partner in the relationship blames their behavior on igniting the abuse. The distressing fact is that millions of women and men are in abusive relationships. It might be a friend, co-worker, neighbor, or other family member. Generally, the abuser is a controller in the marriage or any type of personal relationship. The abuser uses the behavior to control his partner. Recognizing the warning signs of domestic violence is key to ending domestic violence and leaving the relationship. This is where an experienced AZ divorce attorney can help.

Recognizing Domestic Violence Warning Signs
Often, the abuser’s goal is to control the situation. The abuser might start out by simply yelling at his partner, spouse, girlfriend, or boyfriend. They may threaten their partner with physical violence, scream, or throw things around the home. The abuse escalates and the abuser starts pushing, shoving, and/or slapping their partner around violently. Generally, the violent behavior is triggered by the most innocent situations.

Signs Your Partner Is An Abuser
Domestic violence varies. Still, there are several similarities to note. Here are a few signs that your significant other is an abuser and that you are in a domestic violence relationship.

  • Your partner calls you derogatory names in front of others
  • Exhibits frightening behavior
  • Controls your life
  • Insist you end relationships with friends and family
  • Controls your money, spending, and paycheck
  • Makes all the decisions in the relationship
  • Threatens to hurt or kill you
  • Destroys your personal belongings
  • Denies abusing you
  • Threatens you with weapons

The sobering fact is that arguments happen in just about every personal relationship. However, domestic violence is not a characteristic of a loving relationship. It’s important to recognize the warning signs of domestic violence and get out of the relationship before disaster strikes. It’s time to end the abuse by calling a Scottsdale divorce attorney to discuss your options. The Law Office of Hope E. Fruchtman is here for you.

 

 

 

 

How Divorce Affects Children

Oct 31

How Divorce Affects Children, parents speaking with daughterWhat are the Affects on Children?

Divorce is a major life event that affects everyone in the family, especially the kids. While divorce is often necessary for the health and happiness of the family, it can take a toll on your children.

Stress

During and shortly after the divorce, your child may feel stressed about adjusting to the new family structure. Moving to a new home or adapting to having only one parent around is difficult, especially for kids who haven’t experienced much change in their lives before.

Trust Issues

Most young children want their parents to stay together, and they believe that their parents belong together. Divorce shatters this image, which can feel like a betrayal of trust. Kids may become more withdrawn from their parents during and after a divorce, or they may lash out in anger.

Behavioral and Psychological Problems

Children of divorced parents tend to display more behavioral and psychological issues than children whose parents are still together. Their grades may suffer, and they may be at a greater risk of dropping out of high school. Feelings of depression and anxiety are also common around the time of the divorce.

Not all children of divorced parents experience these issues, but they are still important problems to watch out for.

How You Can Help

The parents’ behavior during a divorce has a big impact on how the children react to it. During a divorce, the kids might feel like their parents don’t love them, so making sure your kids know they’re loved is essential.

Be straightforward about the divorce and explain your new living situation or schedule clearly. For example, if your children know that they’ll get to see their other parent every other weekend, it gives them some structure and expectations during a time of confusion.

Hiring an AZ divorce lawyer during the proceedings will also make divorce much easier on everyone in your family. When you have a lawyer who can handle the legality of the matter, you’ll have more time and energy to focus on helping your children through the difficult experience. If you want to get in touch with a Scottsdale divorce attorney, you can contact the Law Office of Hope E. Fruchtman.

5 things you should know about relocation

Oct 31

relocation, a father and son movingWhen parents divorce, one of them may move away. Parents should learn about Arizona’s relocation rules, so that they can work with their Scottsdale divorce attorney to pursue their interests in the best way possible. Here are 5 things you need to know about relocation:

1. You can relocate before you file for divorce

There’s nothing to prevent you from moving with the children before you file for divorce. In fact, this might be necessary if there’s domestic violence in your home. However, it might affect when and how you can file for divorce. If you’re considering divorce or separation, contact the law office of Hope E. Fruchtman before you file, so that you can make a workable plan.

2. But you need permission after you have an order

Once you have an order in place, you absolutely need permission from the court in order to move with the children. Don’t make the mistake of asking for forgiveness instead of permission. The court can order you to return with the children, and you can even lose custody if you take off before a judge gives the green light.

3. You need a reason to relocate

When the court decides whether to grant your request, they look at whether the move improves life for the children. That means, you need to be able to show the court why life is better for the children if you can move. Your AZ divorce attorney can help present your case in the best way.

4. It’s hard to move in shared custody cases

In cases where the parents share parenting time roughly equally, the courts hesitate to approve a move. You need to have a compelling case for custody as well as for the move. Attorney Hope E. Fruchtman can help evaluate your case to see if you’re likely to succeed at a hearing.

5. The child’s opinion matters

Although the child doesn’t have final say in the matter, the court will take the child’s opinion into account. The child must be old enough to have an honest opinion. The court will also consider if a parent is coaching the child about what to say.

7 commonly asked questions about adoption

Aug 17

questions about adoption, parents with child

Deciding to adopt a child is unfamiliar territory and it helps to go into the process with a basic understanding of how it works. Every situation is not the same, but there are some aspects that are in common with many adoptions. Take a look at these answers to seven commonly asked questions about adoption to expand your knowledge on the subject and decide if it’s the right option for you.

What do I need to do to start the process?

The general process of being approved to be an adoptive parent begins with finding an agency to conduct a home study. You can choose between a public or private agency.

What information do I provide?

Before you can be approved to adopt you’ll need to provide a variety of information. This includes answering many questions about parenting beliefs, your background, family structure, education, employment, finances and everything else relevant to your situation.

Can I adopt if I’m single?

Being single is not a reason to be denied to adopt. It can be a bit more difficult, but it’s not impossible.

How much does it cost?

Adoption costs are far from static. The amount you’ll pay depends on the agency you’re working with, fees for things such as applications or a home study and costs such as traveling to the destination where the child is. The unfamiliarity can be eased with assistance from an Arizona family lawyer.

How long does it take to get a match?

This is something else that isn’t the same for every situation. It depends on your availability, preferences for age, and location. Expect the process to take a minimum of six months to get going and a couple years if you’re looking to adopt an infant.

What is the difference between open and closed?

A closed adoption keeps information about the birth parents private with no communication between them and the adoptive parents. Some open adoptions do provide contact on a regular basis.

Is there a support network?

A support network is available for both adoptive parents and children after placement. Counseling offers social, educational and support activities.

It is beneficial to seek services from a Scottsdale family attorney once your make the decision to adopt. The Law office of Attorney Hope E. Fruchtman can guide you on the process and ease your concerns. If you have questions about adoption, do not hesitate to contact a family attorney who can help you.

How does child support work?

Aug 01

a child support
Parents who establish a custody order for the first time often wonder how child support works. The State of Arizona
created a child support formula that applies to all custody orders in the state. The formula takes the circumstances of the case into account to calculate what parent should pay support and how much they should pay. Usually, child support lasts until a child turns 18 or graduates from high school, whichever comes later. Child support always ends at age 19, even if a child is still in high school.

The child support formula considers the income of the parties and the amount of time that the child spends with each parent. This isn’t always as simple as it sounds, so it’s important to work with a Scottsdale family attorney on your case. At the law office of Attorney Hope E. Fruchtman, we help deserving clients examine their child support case so that their order correctly reflects the true situation. It’s not always easy to know what counts and what doesn’t count for purposes of calculating child support. Parents are also not always honest about their income, but a skilled and experienced Arizona divorce attorney can demand information from the other parent and conduct an investigation to help the court arrive at the true income of the parties.

In addition to income, a child support order also takes health care into account. If one parent provides health insurance for the child, the other parent pays for part of the child’s share of the premiums. Childcare expenses and childcare tax credits are also accounted for in the child support calculation.

The courts can take special circumstances into account. If a child attends a private school, the court can add child support payments for a share of the tuition. Where a child has special needs or extraordinary talents, the court can take related expenses into account, too.

Child support is a mathematical formula, but it isn’t always that simple. Honest mistakes and hidden incomes can result in an incorrect child support calculation. Working with an experienced attorney can help you avoid errors that result in an incorrect calculation of support.

New Marriage with Children Involved?

Jul 17

new marriageA new marriage is a major experience. When children are involved, it can be even more of an adventure. Not only have you made a commitment to your new spouse, but to their child as well. Suddenly, you have an opportunity to share in all the joy and growing pains of parenthood. As exciting as this phase of life can be, there are also challenges involved with raising a non-biological child. The key is to educate yourself on any potential obstacles as soon as possible. Here are a few examples of these obstacles and how to be prepared.

Medical Needs
It is important for children to see a doctor regularly in order to monitor growth and development. This can be difficult for a new spouse. In order to include the child on your work insurance, you must show that you are legally responsible for them. You could also face this problem in the event of an emergency. Without the proper authority, hospitals will not allow you to make certain medical decisions. Consider speaking with a Scottsdale AZ. Family attorney about your options.

Biological Parents
If your new spouse has a child from a previous relationship, you must consider the other biological parent. The level of their involvement can be a blessing or a significant roadblock. The other parent may not support your presence in the child’s life. This objection could even lead to custody disputes. Generally, these arrangements will have been previously addressed by the courts or an Arizona divorce lawyer. However, you should prepare for a petition to review if the other parent is unhappy.

Despite any struggles you may face in a new marriage, this is not an impossible situation. You and your new blended family can have a wonderful life together. There will be birthday parties, holidays, vacations, and so much more to share. When the time comes that you need a lawyer, legal experts, like those at the law office of Attorney Hope E. Frutchman, can guide you through the process. They will also represent your best interests. The ultimate goal is to encourage a safe and happy home for everyone in your family.

Divorced With Kids? Where should they go to school?

Jun 06

school, kids getting on a bus
A divorce can be devastating for all family members, especially for the kids of the divorcing couples because their lives are affected in many ways. One issue that comes up during divorce proceedings is the dispute over where the kids will attend school after the parents go their separate ways. Children whose parents are going through a divorce often fear that they will be separated from their teachers, classmates and friends. Kids also worry that they will bounce around or attend different schools each year.
The question remains, who gets to decide where the kids will attend school after divorce? Our Scottsdale divorce attorney at the law office of Hope E. Fruchtman will advice you and offer you the best answer for this question depending on the custody order. In most divorce cases, the decision of where the kids attend school is decided by the facts of the case. In the situation where one parent has sole legal custody, he or she has the right to pick which school the kids attend without the advice of the other party. Alternatively, when both parents share joint custody, they have to agree on the various issues about the kids i.e. the schools that they attend.
If the joint custody plan does not handle the issue of which school the kids attend, the parents have to agree in mediation, on their own, or through a divorce attorney who will file a motion in court for the judge to decide. It is also important to note that the presiding judge retains the authority to make special stipulations that are in the best interests of the kids; these factors include commuting time, desires of the children and parent, proximity to custodial parent among others. If you are worried how a divorce may alter your rights to make key decisions on behalf of your kids, it is a good idea to let our experienced divorce attorney guide you through the divorce process.

Importance of Parenting Time

May 19

parenting timeThere are numerous studies that outline the importance of a child receiving access to both parents. Removing one parent from children when they provide a healthy, loving relationship can prove detrimental to the overall wellbeing of the child. However, in the event of divorce, parents often attempt to obtain full custody of their child, for one reason or another. It is in the best interest of not only both parents but of the children as well to receive access and time with one another. This can go along way in improving the overall quality of life for each individual.

In the event of divorce and child custody, a parent needs to go after the very best representation possible. Hope E. Fruchtman is one of the top Scottsdale family law attorney provides in all of metro Phoenix. So, no matter the case, when it comes to family time and parental representation, this is the attorney parents need to turn to.

As nearly 50 percent of all marriages end in divorce, there are often children involved. Unless the couple has put of having children or they are early on in their marriage (or on the flip side, decades into it), child custody is one of the most important battles anyone will fight.

Hopefully, parents can agree on equal time with their children. This way, parents have the ability to connect with their child and spend the same amount of time with them. However, when this agreement is not possible, it can become an incredibly nasty endeavor for both parties. To avoid this kind of issue and to make sure a parent receives what is best for not only them but their child, Hope E. Fruchtman is able to help. The attorney can provide assistance in all forms of family law around Scottsdale.